Comments on: [Master Your Fears] Where Does Fear Come From? http://whitneyclaire.com/blog/2009/11/master-your-fears-where-does-fear-come-from/ Finding a balance between effort and surrender. Sun, 25 Jul 2010 16:24:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: whitney claire http://whitneyclaire.com/blog/2009/11/master-your-fears-where-does-fear-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-497 whitney claire Tue, 01 Dec 2009 05:30:33 +0000 http://whitneyclaire.com/blog/?p=1272#comment-497 Linda Sapadin's book seems pretty good. I was a little skeptical at first just because I didn't think anyone could really get into my head and know what I was feeling, or how to deal with it. But I've been shocked. It's really been a good jumping of place for my therapy. I don't really think that it would do as much for me (personal preference) without the sounding board of my psychologist. Together, the two are really helping to solidify things. I was so totally excited about this blog post because I really felt like I uncovered some crazy dark thing that I had buried deep down inside me. And when I told my mom she completely agreed. I think that the whole Billy Ponder nightmare coupled with all the other things I mentioned that really started this downhill slide into a pattern of behavior of completely paralyzing fear. And because I've never mentioned it before, the paralyzing fear is really that I'm afraid of becoming some kind of random victim of horrific violence. It's so bad sometimes that I make my husband get up in the middle of the night, turn on every light in the house, and check every room, every closet, every nook and cranny of our house. And he has to sing the whole time he's doing it and call out that the coast is clear so that I know that he didn't get ambushed along the way. The crazy thing is, we have a Belgian Malinois that I'm pretty sure would rip your arm off and beat you with it if you tried to come into our house uninvited. But now that I know where this all started from I feel a little bit better about it. Like, it's not so scary any more. I think getting it out is half the battle. Feel free to share your thoughts on my future posts. It always helps when you know other people are going through it too; like you're not alone in the world and there are others that feel the same way kind of helps to make you feel a little less crazy sometimes. Linda Sapadin’s book seems pretty good. I was a little skeptical at first just because I didn’t think anyone could really get into my head and know what I was feeling, or how to deal with it. But I’ve been shocked. It’s really been a good jumping of place for my therapy. I don’t really think that it would do as much for me (personal preference) without the sounding board of my psychologist. Together, the two are really helping to solidify things.

I was so totally excited about this blog post because I really felt like I uncovered some crazy dark thing that I had buried deep down inside me. And when I told my mom she completely agreed. I think that the whole Billy Ponder nightmare coupled with all the other things I mentioned that really started this downhill slide into a pattern of behavior of completely paralyzing fear.

And because I’ve never mentioned it before, the paralyzing fear is really that I’m afraid of becoming some kind of random victim of horrific violence. It’s so bad sometimes that I make my husband get up in the middle of the night, turn on every light in the house, and check every room, every closet, every nook and cranny of our house. And he has to sing the whole time he’s doing it and call out that the coast is clear so that I know that he didn’t get ambushed along the way. The crazy thing is, we have a Belgian Malinois that I’m pretty sure would rip your arm off and beat you with it if you tried to come into our house uninvited.

But now that I know where this all started from I feel a little bit better about it. Like, it’s not so scary any more. I think getting it out is half the battle. Feel free to share your thoughts on my future posts. It always helps when you know other people are going through it too; like you’re not alone in the world and there are others that feel the same way kind of helps to make you feel a little less crazy sometimes.

]]> By: Chris http://whitneyclaire.com/blog/2009/11/master-your-fears-where-does-fear-come-from/comment-page-1/#comment-496 Chris Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:32:17 +0000 http://whitneyclaire.com/blog/?p=1272#comment-496 Very interesting. I've always been really into the mind, how it works, and the physiology of it and your body's reaction to the mind. I tend to have a lot of irrational fears too and it's interesting to see this guys' (and your) take on the causes. I was a military kid, moving around regularly over the course of my childhood and early teenage years. My parents are extremely conservative so I definitely see the overprotectiveness in there, and I was also pretty screwed up from this <strike>church</strike> cult I was involved with for two years. I've no doubt that those things, plus probably more, contribute to my irrational fear. Plus, I just like to know things. I hate not knowing. Aaaand I'm very particular, sometimes OCD with stuff, so not having control over certain things in my life drive me bonkers. I'll have to do some more research on this stuff, but it seems really interesting. Good stuff here! .-= Chris´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.inathought.com/blog/2009/11/top-tens-india-pale-ales-ipa/" rel="nofollow">Top tens: India Pale Ale’s (IPA)</a> =-. Very interesting. I’ve always been really into the mind, how it works, and the physiology of it and your body’s reaction to the mind. I tend to have a lot of irrational fears too and it’s interesting to see this guys’ (and your) take on the causes.

I was a military kid, moving around regularly over the course of my childhood and early teenage years. My parents are extremely conservative so I definitely see the overprotectiveness in there, and I was also pretty screwed up from this church cult I was involved with for two years. I’ve no doubt that those things, plus probably more, contribute to my irrational fear.

Plus, I just like to know things. I hate not knowing. Aaaand I’m very particular, sometimes OCD with stuff, so not having control over certain things in my life drive me bonkers.

I’ll have to do some more research on this stuff, but it seems really interesting. Good stuff here!
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